Love Smiles at Strangers

Darkness-cannot-driveThe world is in a state of pain because we’ve separated ourselves from each other. If you look around and wonder why you see despair, depression, war, famine, slavery, greed, apathy, pollution, a planet whose depletion is becoming more and more apparent, the answer is simple. We are at war within ourselves. Nothing is happening outside that isn’t happening inside.

It is true that we are going to be alone through much of our time here, sometimes even when we’re in a room full of people we love. That internal dialogue, that relationship you’re having with yourself, is the number one relationship to examine. Because if your inner dialogue is harsh and unforgiving, you are in pain. If you’re in pain, you’re going to spread pain. You won’t mean to do that, but it will happen. In that case, you are living with a nasty roommate you can’t evict, who makes you feel alone, “less than”, resentful, envious, hopeless, angry and frequently bitter. No way you’ll be treating yourself well if you’re feeling that way. And that roommate has a lot of help “out there” to make you believe those feelings are facts. That help comes in the form of constant messages that we are bombarded with from every direction. (Those messages are out there so that we buy stuff as if that will help). You may find yourself asking questions like, “What’s it all for?”

But that roommate is an impostor, and those messages are lies. There’s another voice inside you that is full of love and compassion and truth. It’s a lot quieter and you have to shut out the white noise (which includes the nastiness of that inner critic, your cell phone, your computer, your television, those horrific “beauty” magazines, gossip rags and anything else that tells you, “you suck”) to hear it, but it’s there. The more you make room for that voice, the louder it will get. It’s just been waiting for you. It’s stronger than the critic, it’s stronger than depression, apathy, and disrespect. It does not ever use the word “should” regarding you or anyone else. It is full of compassion and awareness and patience and understanding and forgiveness. The voice is love. We are all made of the same stuff, love, we have just forgotten.

The world is upside down because of that, and although we are all alone on this journey in many ways, we have separated ourselves from each other in a way that makes the ride scary, that makes true connection with anyone else unlikely. Because of course, if anyone knew who you really were, they wouldn’t like you, right? If you edit yourself, no one can know you, thus you will be, in a very real way, alone, and you will suffer. We need connection, we need love, we need to feel like people know us and care. We all need that–people, animals, the beautiful, giving planet. We look around at the state of things and we are overwhelmed by what is wrong with the picture. The picture could be so different. It’s totally simple, but it’s not at all easy. Because the road to uncovering that love might be dark and lonely and full of pain. The more each person refuses to travel that road to internal healing, the more stuck we all become. Love yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself. Three times probably isn’t enough. Say it to yourself a million times. Say it every time some mean nasty thought pops up. Keep going back to love. If you’re full of love, you’ll spread it wherever you go. You won’t mean to, but it will happen. Love smiles at strangers. Love lends a hand for no reason except that it’s natural. Love doesn’t turn a blind eye. Love doesn’t say, “Well, there’s nothing I can do”. We need a serious love explosion. That’s how the picture changes. Sending you love right now, Ally Hamilton

Expose Yourself (not like THAT)

The-strongest-love-isSometimes stealthy fear sneaks in using any and all of it’s cohorts–anger, bitterness, doubt, envy, blame, despair, loneliness, shame, or guilt, and puts the mind in a vise grip. Thoughts carry energy, and if you’re in the grip of any of these states, you’ll notice a tangible bunch of sensations in your body, as well. The breath shortens, the shoulders tighten, the brow furrows, and the heart actually hurts. It’s perfectly natural that you would feel alone in these moments, because you are now “outside the flow”, you’ve been tricked away from your natural state of love.

If at all possible, the heart is the place to go. All you can ever do is your best, and sometimes the terrain is rough and rocky, and the way is uncertain. Being human means being vulnerable. The more you embrace your vulnerability, the degree to which you’re able to be with these painful and uncomfortable feelings, is the same degree to which you’ll experience the flip side of all these emotions. When you feel overtaken by a painful feeling, you can also rejoice a little, because you are here, you are alive, you are aware of your feelings and engaged with them.

When we try to avoid the feelings that make our hearts ache, we also close ourselves off to the feelings that make our hearts sing. The pain is there to reveal something, to teach us something, to help us along our way, to give us something essential. And if you can be with that, if you can open to that, you will equally open to the flip side of fear: love, and all it’s cohorts~ trust, forgiveness, joy, connection, worthiness, ownership of your feelings and and knowledge about yourself. Circumstances are constantly changing, giving us an opportunity to keep growing, to keep learning, to keep opening and deepening. Love is always there, always waiting, always ready to spread some light, even in the darkest of times. So even when the ground is slipping out from underneath you, see if you can tap into that love. Let it deepen your breath, calm your mind, and open your heart once again. Then the way will become clear, the strength will be there for you, and a tiny little voice inside will say, “Yes, you can do it”, even if the path is dark and uncertain. Love always lights the way. Sending you some right now, Ally Hamilton

On St. Patrick’s Day and every day, 7 deep thoughts :)

Happy St. Patrick’s Day! Here are 7 Irish Proverbs for you:
1. You’ll never plough a field by turning it over in your mind.
2. Your feet will bring you to where your heart is.
3. It takes time to build castles.
4. It’s no use going to the goat’s house to look for wool.
5. It is often that a person’s mouth broke his nose.
6. You’ve got to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather
was.
7. It’s easy to halve the potato where there’s love.
If you start seeing leprechauns you’ve had too much to drink (that’s mine :))

On Gurus, Pedestals, and Dogs…

The-dream-begins-with-aThe work of becoming awake and aware is not easy for anyone, and it’s even harder without a community of people on the same path, and a teacher (or teachers) along the way. When you choose a teacher, hopefully it’s because you feel some energy flowing from them (probably love), and you have some feeling this person has grasped something you may not have, as yet. Otherwise, what can they offer you?

I have had many amazing and gifted teachers along the way, and I have incredible gratitude for each of them. When I first started practicing yoga, I put a few of my teachers on pedestals. I had stars in my eyes and was falling in love with the process of coming home to myself. Once or twice I did this because a couple of them gave me the impression that’s where they belonged. If you put your teachers on pedestals, you do them, and your own process a disservice,  although it’s very understandable.

There are a few definitions of guru, and they vary a little between Eastern and Western schools. In the east, a guru is someone who has attained “God-Union”, someone who is going to help to bring you back to God. In the west, a guru is usually thought of as a spiritual teacher, or a “remover of darkness.” We tend to over-use the word in my opinion. Someone can come into your life, and help you begin to lift your own darkness and explore its roots, and heal. I believe that’s the work of a great teacher, to create an environment where healing is likely to occur. These people have a serious and lasting effect on your life, you are forever changed, but if you put them on a pedestal, there’s only one way for them to go. And if they’ve asked you to put them up there, they themselves have gotten lost. It’s a huge red-flag for me when I see someone refer to themselves as a guru, a master, a visionary. That’s a person who has started to lose their grip, and it’s unlikely they’re going to be able to help you much, because they are attached to an image of themselves, and of external confirmation of their own greatness; they have become confused.

If a teacher disappoints you over time due to their actions, it is still possible, and I believe it’s right, to remain grateful for the help they were able to offer to you. Just like a failed relationship, it’s still good to be thankful for the experience, and celebrate the love you were able to explore, and the growth that happened as a result of that. Anything that brings you closer to your truth, closer to that well of love within your heart, more in line with your inner voice, more aware of the divinity that exists within you, is a great thing. Of course if your trust was abused, or your vulnerability was exploited, it’s very difficult to remain grateful. There are a couple of teachers in my past for whom I have mixed emotions. But I’m still grateful they appeared in my life when they did, and helped me along my way, even if they proved to be all too human later.

I’m sharing this with you because I think finding your teacher at any given time is important and not to be taken lightly. Listen to your intuition. If it feels like an act, it’s an act. If it feels like a sales pitch, run. If it feels like a schtick, be careful whose Kool-Aid you’re drinking. I believe the work toward healing yourself and getting back to love is sacred. I believe teaching is an honor, and anyone teaching is hopefully open and honest and aware, willing to share their struggles and imperfections with you, not pretending to be anything other than human. If you’ve been hurt by a trusted teacher, my heart goes out to you. I will say, the best teacher you’ll ever meet lives within your own heart. I’ll also share that the teachers who have never let me down once, and who have removed the most darkness from my path, have been the dog I was blessed to live with for a decade because that was a lesson in unconditional love, and my two children who teach me so much about true love every single day. I have been in the presence of the Dalai Lama a few times, and I believe he has the goods. Other than that, I have been blessed with some very amazing, very human teachers, and I bow to them all. Sending you love, light, peace, and the ability to follow your intuition as you make your way, Ally Hamilton

It’s Not You, It’s Me (for real)

Until-you-make-theSometimes the best way to figure out where there may be room for some deep inner healing is to examine patterns in your life. Patterns frequently show up in romantic relationships. If you have not experienced peace and steadiness in your personal life, maybe it’s the time to look back and see if there’s a theme threading through your history. Are you always trying to save people? Are you attracted to partners who are unavailable in some way? Do you go after people who don’t treat you well? Or, are you the one sabotaging your chances for love? Do you run? Do you “check out”? Do you keep finding yourself in the very situation you were trying to avoid?

If you’re getting a yes to any of these, or you recognize other patterns, chances are, you have found the thread that can lead you back to some very old, very deep pain. It seems to be a human tendency to try to “rewrite history”. Even in day to day life, the mind will get snagged on a conversation that has already happened and try to re-do it, to come up with the “perfect” thing to say. But, there’s no potential in the past, it is done, it cannot be rewritten. It’s good to examine it, though, particularly if you feel you might be dragging your past into your present.

If you can identify the “original why” of any patterns you detect, you can take the unconscious repetition out of your future. (Not that it’s easy, speaking from my own experience). Grooves that we repeat are known as “samskaras” in yoga. But your past does not have to determine your present or your future. If you can bring the source (or sources) of your pain into your consciousness, into your awareness, you take the power away from that inner wiring that may be attracting you to the very situations bound to result in more pain. You can “catch yourself”, identify that “old, familiar feeling” that can be mistaken for love (this feels so reminiscent, this must be it!! uh, no), and sit with yourself instead of acting out. Acknowledging and leaning into your pain takes the “heat” out of it, and that old fire that pulls you to act, even when you know you’re heading straight into a brick wall, will start to subside and cool.

Loving yourself is soothing for your soul, it’s a salve, and it’s a relief. The process of rewiring your system will probably be uncomfortable at best, and it’s very easy to slip back into that old groove as you try to head toward something different. Don’t beat yourself up if you feel like you “must” head into another brick wall. Your awareness alone is huge, and beating yourself up will just make the crash even worse. Eventually, the wall will lose it’s power over you. There are other paths to take that lead toward love. Sending you some right now, Ally Hamilton

Be A Leaf, Why Don’t You?

In-the-depth-of-winter-IIf you were a leaf, everyone would want to look at you and celebrate you in the Fall, when your color was the most vibrant, and you were expressing the fullness of all your experiences. But we cling to the green. People spend a ton of time and energy trying to look green, and we romanticize the idea of wiping the slate clean and being innocent again, having everything ahead of us again.

The truth is, you can retain your innocence if you walk into each experience with curiosity. Nature is teaching us all the time that everything is always changing. Nothing living is exactly the same twice, so you can always walk into a situation with open eyes and an open mind and an open heart. And you can wipe the slate clean at any time. You don’t have to keep your past alive by feeding it too much energy. You can continually, “start again”, allowing yourself to open and grow and embrace your experience as it’s happening. Surprise yourself. You don’t have to put yourself in a box. You don’t have to decide you are “THIS” kind of person, or you would never do “THAT”. Allow other people and experiences to surprise you, too. Examine sweeping generalizations carefully.

When we are “green” we are working it out…our time of greenness usually involves some confusion and loneliness and flailing about. The wind can really whip us around as we try to figure out our purpose, and what it is that’s going to allow our Fall to be full of color. Why cling to that? And as hard as we cling to the green, we also resist our Winter, the time when everything hardens, and gets brittle and cold. We forget to acknowledge and honor and celebrate the wisdom that usually comes when someone is granted a long and healthy life, and that frequently, although the body may harden, the heart can be at its’ softest and most open state.

There’s nothing to cling to, and nothing to resist, it is happening. And if you consider areas in your life where you may be suffering, underneath that pain there is almost certainly a craving for something, or an aversion to something; craving and aversion are at the root of all suffering. At our core, if we keep craving the green and feeling aversion about the inevitable Winter, we will certainly suffer. If you can live your life celebrating all its seasons, rejoicing in your own growth, your expanding potential to spread love, and living in a way that recognizes your experience is fleeting, then you will truly want to be alive and present and open to each moment, you won’t want to miss or minimize or resist anything. You will want to embrace each breath, each conversation, each smile, each tear, each hug, each breeze, each rain, each sunrise, each heartbreak, each joy. Of course it’s human to fear the unknown, but if a leaf eventually falls to the forest floor, and is gently blown into the river, and that water ends up feeding the very tree the leaf grew upon, I think it’s pretty likely we all keep feeding the whole, feeding the LOVE.

Sending you some right now, Ally Hamilton

You make me feel so…nothing.

Freedom-begins-theRecently I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who happens to be a Jungian therapist. And very casually he said, “Well, no one can MAKE you feel anything.” And I happen to believe that’s true, although not necessarily obvious. It’s another way of describing “Vairagya”, or non-attachment. But I think most of us have to wrestle with that idea for a bit, and I think if you’d like to achieve that state you’re going to have to have a lot of patience (with yourself and with others), desire and discipline. Particularly if we’re talking in the context of any close (intimate or familial) relationship, let alone a guy on the freeway who cuts you off.

I remember years ago when I was at my first Vipassana Meditation retreat, I stayed one night to speak to one of the teachers. The night’s discourse had been about non-attachment and I was left feeling troubled. Even though I’d committed to not speaking or making eye contact with anyone for 10 days, we were allowed to ask questions of the teachers and I decided this was pressing enough that I didn’t want to wait almost a week to have some input. I told her I never wanted to be someone who was so non-attached that if, let’s say, my friend got hit by a bus, I would just accept that must be the natural order of things, and go on my way. She assured me that no one was looking for that level of detachment. The idea was to not be so attached to possessions, ideas, our plans. She went on to say that as human beings we will be attached to our loved ones, and as a result we will suffer. We’ll suffer when they don’t do what we want (think significant others, parents, children), we’ll suffer when we lose people we love through misunderstandings, break-ups, and ultimately, through death.

Most of us practicing yoga today are not living the life of a monk in a cave. I spend a lot of time considering how to teach the spiritual limbs of the yoga practice in a practical way. How do we apply these ideas to our fast-paced, technology-saturated, “house-dweller” lives? How does someone who has a job of some kind, checks Facebook regularly, carries an iPhone or an Android or whatever, stops to tweet something now and then, has responsibilities and pressures to meet, how does someone who is IN and OF this crazy world practice YOGA? I’m not talking about the 90 minutes on your mat, I’m talking about the eight-limbed path. I know you dig it. Check Georg Feuerstein from “The Shambala Guide to Yoga”:

“…if we truly understand that our material life is inherently limited and that the pleasures we can derive from our body and mind are likewise limited, merely temporary, and certainly not ultimately fulfilling, then we can open ourselves to the possibility of a new perception: that happiness is independent of our nervous system and the stimuli that can excite it. This is indeed the great message of all forms of Yoga: Happiness is our essential nature, and our perpetual quest for happiness is fulfilled only when we realize who we truly are. This realization is awakening to our Selfhood, which transcends the body-mind, the ego-personality, and the horizon of the world reflected in our ordinary experience. All this, and more, is captured in the word yoga.”

Practically speaking, the idea is to attain and then maintain (and that’s the tricky part), this level of balance, or steadiness, or inner peace, or happiness, or realizing, or whatever you’d like to call it. Now, I just brushed over some serious work, because if you want to get back to your natural state (which Georg calls happiness and I call love), you’re going to have to examine the relationship you’re having with yourself, and heal what needs to be healed. I think one of the greatest gifts of a seated meditation practice is that it helps to connect us to our “witness” or our “watchman”. If we can start to observe our own experiences as they’re happening during seated meditation, we can also start to observe our experiences as they’re happening when we are out in the world.

The implications of ,”No one can MAKE you feel anything” are huge. Most of us in relationships, whether they be with family members, significant others, close friends, or our dogs…most of us have a story that we tell ourselves. We look back on the relationship and we dwell on the history. First this happened, and then this, and then this. And almost always, we are the hero or the victim, or sometimes the heroic victim. Our history explains our current state with this person, and if it isn’t good, well, it is almost definitely the other person’s fault. But, um. If no one can MAKE you feel anything, then what do you do with your story? If you were to suddenly drop all your stories, what would be left? Or, if it’s not the other person’s fault, if, in fact, only you are responsible for the way you feel, then what do you do? Consider Eckhart Tolle on this subject, “The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it.” I think you have to own the fact that you participate or have participated in any relationship that has gone, or is going, in a direction that does not feel healthy, or good, or growing. And then figure out what you brought to the situation, the lens you’re looking through, the way you feel about yourself, and the choices you make, or have made. If you’re in a balanced state, you’ll move toward people or situations or experiences that are naturally soothing to you, that bring you laughter, and light, and a sense that you are understood and seen and appreciated. But if you aren’t feeling good about yourself, all kinds of unhealthy choices might be made.

Please understand I realize there are many situations and circumstances in this world, and perhaps in your own life, that are incomprehensibly heartbreaking. In this context I’m talking mostly about day-to-day interactions with people, whether they be casual and “in passing”, or with people close to you. We all have a lens we look through, which is shaped by our experiences, and the conclusions we choose to retain as a result of our experiences. It’s very important to be familiar with your particular lens. Your Rx might read, “Everyone Leaves”, or, “Everyone Cheats”, or , “I Never Get Any Breaks”, or, fill-in-the-blank.

In any meditation practice, whether it be a moving meditation like the asana practice, or a seated meditation, the idea is to drop the lens, to witness without judging, naming, categorizing. Osho says a reaction comes out of the past and a response comes out of the present. Hopefully when you’re practicing any kind of meditation that speaks to you (and for some people it’s windsurfing, or horseback riding, or hiking), hopefully it offers you the experience of being more responsive and less reactive. How can I show up in THIS moment, fully open and awake and aware? Let me learn to listen and to breathe and to be curious, without being attached to any particular outcome.

That’s a good state of mind on your mat, and I think it’s also a good state of mind in any relationship. That opens some huge windows. Maya Angelou says, “When people show you who they are, believe them, the first time”. The ability to listen and be open and allow the person to unfold to you, rather than to project a list of attributes you hope to exist within them. The ability to let the relationship breathe and grow without an agenda, without trying to shape it or force it along a certain trajectory. To be able to cultivate that listening in the context of a disagreement. Let me fully listen to this other person. Let me drop my defenses and hear what’s being said. Let me be aware of my own ability or inability to do that. If I’m having trouble, let me just state that out loud and try again to listen. Often in relationships, especially if there’s conflict, we don’t listen, we just wait for our turn to speak so we can present our point of view. So we can “win”, so we can be “right”. Sometimes we have the “feeling” without any real understanding of what’s actually being communicated. We “jump” to the feeling and immediately blame the other person for our heightened state, our quickening heart-rate, that sensation in the pit of our bellies. We are in fight or flight, and chances are, we are bringing something old into the present. In other words, WE are bringing a lot of the feeling into the situation. Maybe there’s an opportunity to witness your experience as it’s happening. To notice your breath and the way you’re holding your body. To direct your attention to what the other person is saying, and to try to reflect it back to them, so that you’re both clear about what’s being said. Maybe you’ll do all that, and still feel very hurt by something that was said to you. Then you have an opportunity to explore why it hurts so much. Is it true? Do you believe it to be true? If not, why feed it so much energy? If yes, examine why. Because you may have just uncovered a deep pool of pain that could use some attention, compassion and healing. Your feelings are yours.

What I’m talking about is very different than what I consider to be an “abuse” or a total misrepresentation of the yoga practice. Maybe we can all agree that no one can make you feel anything (and maybe we can’t all agree on that!), but that does not negate each person’s own accountability. In other words, I can’t do something hurtful to someone, and then tell them when they feel badly that it’s their own “negativity”. And boy, is there a lot of that garbage floating around in the water sometimes.  There’s a famous story about Buddha which I’m going to condense. Basically, he became a threatening force to an elder in a community where he was starting to teach meditation. This man showed up and insulted and berated the Buddha during one of his meditation sessions. The Buddha asked the man if people ever visited him in his home. The man was confused and thrown off center and he said yes. The Buddha asked if his visitors ever brought gifts, and again, the man said yes. Then the Buddha asked what would happen if the man refused the gifts. The man answered that the gifts would still belong to the visitors who brought them. And Buddha said, exactly. You came here today with your gift of anger, but I do not want it, it is not mine. So take your gift away with you, or join us and learn to meditate.  Or so the story goes. Well, some people have taken this story, and run with it, a great distance. Their idea goes something like, “I have to honor what I feel in each moment, and if you’re hurt or upset by that, that’s your stuff to deal with”. Or something. But that’s not yoga, that’s self-absorption. Totally different practice. Dr. Wayne Dyer has a quote, “How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours”.  So while no one may be able to make you feel anything, I think the world would be a more loving and happy place if everyone tried to remember that we are all in this together, that we are more similar than we are different, that we could all use more compassion and less judgment, and that we will all make mistakes. I think it’s also essential to be able to receive and accept an apology, to work on the ability to forgive. If you want to take ownership of your feelings, you’ll also want to add a healthy side of compassion.

In one sense, accepting ownership of your feelings creates a lot more work for you. The “blame game”, or the victim stance may seem easier, and it may also be habitual. If that’s the case, it will take a lot of effort, a new way of thinking, and a willingness to witness your experience as conflicts arise, in order to make some changes. But in a very real way, if you accept responsibility for your feelings in any given moment, you also become empowered. There are opportunities to practice this way of being every day, in small ways and usually in big ways, too. S.N.Goenka, who is the primary Vipassana meditation teacher, talks about how the mind loves to “boil itself”. He’s talking about those times when something unwanted has happened, and we obsessively replay it in our minds. Sylvia Boorstein, another highly revered mediation teacher talks about how the mind seems to get hooked or snagged on those negative instances. Someone says or does something hurtful, and the mind goes into a tailspin. It might be an interaction, a conversation, or a situation we’ve been a part of that did not go the way we wanted it to, and now we’re in a state of turmoil.

Have you ever replayed a conversation in your mind, and rewritten your responses? Maybe you’ve experienced hours, or an entire day going by when you are just caught in this awful web of negativity, re-writing this interaction, and at the same time feeling worse and worse. Of course, because you are feeding this beast, and the more energy you feed it, the bigger it gets. These are the moments when you have an exceptional opportunity to practice picking the mind up and bringing it back to the present moment. The past is over, the conversation cannot be redone (but perhaps it can be revisited with more clarity and calmness, or maybe you won’t need to revisit it, maybe you can find your own closure). Observe your state of mind, and observe the way it’s affecting your physical body. First of all, can you take several deep breaths and be really aware of each one? Can you scan your body for tension, checking the hinge of your jaw, your neck, your shoulders? From there, can you find some compassion for yourself? Maybe you can start to examine what has you so tweaked. Undoubtedly something has pushed a button in you, and you might as well get to know your buttons.

At the root of any spiritual practice is the idea, “know yourself”. Maybe the other person has stuff to own, but you cannot control whether they will or won’t. If it’s circumstances that have you down, if you’re angry at the world, or shaking your fist at the sky, it is almost definitely a time to shift your perspective inward. Ultimately, you are left with your own state of mind, and your own internal dialogue. You can’t change the world around you without changing the world within you, first. None of us are perfect. None of us will show up as our highest selves in every moment of every day. Sometimes life will feel really unfair. Sometimes, we will all struggle to find the path, and even after we’ve found it, we will all experience dark times when we lose our way. The person you will spend the most time with in this life is you. If you can start to tap into the reality that although you are having this somewhat isolated personal experience, you are also a part of something much larger than yourself, if you assume responsibility for your feelings (and in so doing, your actions, and the energy you’re spreading as you travel about the world), you may begin to experience a little more peace. Just a little less focus on the “I, ME, MINE” (the STORY), and a little more on the great potential you have within you to spread some love, will help a lot. The more peaceful it is within you, the more peaceful it will be around you. And if you can keep working toward a peaceful inner state, it will become less and less likely that something as small as a stranger driving like a maniac will rob you of that peace.

Perhaps eventually you will be able to send compassion to anyone in your life who might be suffering, who might not be showing up in the kindest way, who might be “off the path” for a bit, without losing your own inner balance, even when they do something or say something that upsets you, or confuses you, or disappoints you. And someday, maybe you can work toward compassion for all people who are suffering, in any kind of way, physically or emotionally, or violently, whether they be known to you or not, whether they are doing things you agree with, or not. What I’m saying is, the possibilities for inner peace are pretty limitless if you decide to steer your own ship. And if everybody got on board with that plan, I think the possibilities for outward peace would also be pretty limitless. I think even working toward this in small ways, a little at a time, leads to a very positive result. Your feelings are yours, but I wish you feelings of peace, and love, and the strength to find those things, Ally Hamilton